Archive for May, 2009

Help! My Child is “The Constant Interrupter”

Friday, May 29th, 2009

Does your child interrupt conversations with the words, “But Mom…” or “But Dad…” ? Do they constantly cut you off mid-sentence to tell you that something’s not fair?  
Interrupting comes from a variety of sources, including over-stimulation, competition with siblings and peers, impulsivity and general family patterns of communication. It’s helpful to pinpoint what combination of [...]

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How to Keep the Violence Out of Your Home

Thursday, May 28th, 2009

Fifteen minutes with Grand Theft Auto–San Andreas and Josh (age 14, under the persona of CJ in the game) has killed ten gang members and made off with over $100,000 dollars. He pulls another “Baller” out of his car and cuts him in half with a chainsaw. Then another.  Slices into him again for good [...]

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Eliminate “Shut up!” from Your Family’s Vocabulary

Wednesday, May 27th, 2009

 For many families, the “shut up”  response is an “A-side/B-side” issue. Here, James Lehman MSW tackles the problem from both perspectives, and shows you how to eliminate it from your family’s vocabulary.
“Shut up!”  What to do when your child says it to you:
If your child tells you to shut up, the best thing to do [...]

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Does Your Child Say This? Translating the Secret Language of Acting-Out Kids

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009

When kids act out, they have an arsenal of comments they fire at you in order to put you on the defensive—a secret language that’s designed to win them control and absolve them of responsibility. If you take those comments at face value—or take them to heart—you’ll always be on the defensive, constantly reacting to [...]

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Do You Make this Parenting Mistake? “Wait till Your Father Gets Home!”

Friday, May 22nd, 2009

Sometimes when we feel powerless as parents, we resort to bringing out the big guns. Have you ever found yourself  saying things like, “Wait until your father gets home!” or “Wait until your mother hears about this!”? I’m here to tell you that if you threaten a child with what their other parent might do, [...]

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