Archive for May, 2009

Gut Check: Do You Tiptoe around Your Child?

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009

“It was always like walking on eggshells around here. Very tense,” says Josephine, mother of 17-year-old Jamie. “She was totally disrespectful and condescending and I was ready to throw her out.” Josephine recalls how her “blood was always boiling” at home because her daughter’s unending anger stoked her own anger, and she dreaded the next [...]

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Siblings at War in Your Home (Declare a Ceasefire Now)

Monday, May 18th, 2009

Sibling rivalry is normal in families with more than one child. It becomes a problem when one child bullies or dominates the other. It’s also a more complex issue than it first appears. On the surface, you have two kids who are “at war”—who bicker constantly and don’t get along. There can be many reasons [...]

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Masters of Manipulation: How Teens Control You With Behavior

Thursday, May 14th, 2009

 “My son can be the sweetest, most awesome kid in the world,” says Tracy of 10-year-old Jarrett. “But he has ADHD, and he totally uses it to his advantage with us. He would have huge meltdowns when we asked him to go to bed and shut off the light.” The Phoenix-area mom recalls the night [...]

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Is it a Phase?

Wednesday, May 13th, 2009

Q: Why do parents tend to dismiss inappropriate behavior as “a phase?”
James: When a child is between 18 months and two years old, they’ll start to walk away and say “no” to their parent. The child is practicing a new skill. Parents call it a phase because eventually, the “no” goes away and the child [...]

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When Your Teen Says, “I Don’t Fit In.”

Tuesday, May 12th, 2009

Every child feels like they don’t fit in at some point. Even adults feel that way occasionally: we all experience being “alone in a room full of people.” With kids, the need to be part of a group is instinctual; it’s survival. They want to fit in and be like everyone else because it gives [...]

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