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“I’ll Do It Later!” 6 Ways to Get Kids to Do Chores Now

Tuesday, June 30th, 2009

Getting kids to do chores is one of the most common arguments families have. Who can’t relate to this picture? You’re yelling, “Why haven’t you cleaned your room yet?” while your child is on the couch watching TV, shouting back, “I’ll do it later!”
The reason kids don’t like doing chores is the same reason adults [...]

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Kids, Blaming and Apologies: Everything after “But” is Bull

Monday, June 29th, 2009

You’ll often hear kids say, “I’m sorry, but…” and follow their apology with an excuse. “I’m sorry, but you were looking at me.” “I’m sorry, but you wouldn’t let me play my video games.” “I’m sorry I kicked a hole in the wall, but you told me I couldn’t go outside.” So, what your child [...]

Tags: child can admit he was wrong, child habit excuses, child is in the habit of blaming others, child is in the habit of making excuses, child is taking responsibility for his actions, child makes excuses, help kids learn to identify what they did wrong, kids manipulate, kids who manipulate, Parenting Skills
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The Lost Children: When Behavior Problems Traumatize Siblings

Thursday, June 25th, 2009

Q: What do the other children in the family experience when they have a brother or sister who’s hostile or acts out chronically?
James:
It’s traumatizing when something hurtful happens to you, and you can’t control it, you can’t stop it, you can’t predict how hurtful it’s going to be, and you can’t predict when or [...]

Tags: acting out kids target their siblings, adaptive response to trauma, child who avoids family situations, defiant siblings, help the acting out child, parents stop setting the limits, siblings of acting out kids, sibling’s abuse
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Stop the Blame Game: How to Teach Your Child to Stop Making Excuses and Start Taking Responsibility

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

When parents realize that their child might have either a behavioral or learning problem, the first thing many do is blame themselves. Parents are usually very frightened and worried about their children’s behavior. This fear often manifests itself in negative ways. One of those ways is blame.
As problems continue, they start to externalize the blame [...]

Tags: child blames someone else, child fighting, child might have either a behavioral, child needs to learn to perform, Children who don’t follow the rules, childs responsibility, developmental level of your child, encouraging your child, kids who have behavioral problems, teach child to stop making excuses, teach child to take responsibility
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Living with Little Lawyers: Don’t Over-negotiate with Your Child

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2009

If you are a parent who negotiates constantly with your child, you probably feel like you’re living with a little lawyer who “objects” to every rule and request and wears you down with endless questions and challenges. With some kids, everything becomes a negotiation, and it starts from the time they get up in the [...]

Tags: child is pushing the limits, child tries to negotiate, kids are going to test limits, negotiating with your child, rewarding your child
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