Coping with divorce and separation with teens involved is challenging to say the least. From my own experience, ground rules must be made and both parents must stay involved and committed. If there are disagreements between parents, they must be worked out between the two adults. A teenager may look and act like an adult, but are not fully mature and should not have to take on any added stress.
Another positive thing to do for a teenager coping with divorce or separation is to get them involved in various activities like sports, school, church, family gatherings, projects, etc. Be creative with your time-sharing and refrain from drilling the teenager on the events during the time spent with the other parent.
You might want to share with a counselor at the school of the changes at home. Be aware of any changes in your teenager’s friends or behavior. Also, find outlets for yourself, and be sure to have somebody close with whom to share your thoughts. It is a job in itself keeping a teenager coping with divorce focused. Chores are always a good way to maintain structure and teach responsibility. When a teenager says they are spending the night with a newly found friend with whom you are unfamiliar, be sure to follow-up with an adult at the home where they will be staying for the evening. It is a hard time for the entire family and you must follow through on everything you plan with your teenager.
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