It is not easy when you are concerned with your teenager’s choices. I am a fourty-five year old mother and a grandmother. As a parent, I always want the best for my daughter. I want her to be healthy and to protect her from the consequences of making poor choices.
I love my daughter more than life itself. It is difficult to cope with a teenage bipolar daughter, similar to a rollrcoaster ride- up & down with sharp fast turns, bolting take off’s and sudden screetching stops. For myself,  it has been the ride of my life, I just keeping checking the seatbelt to make sure I am strapped in.
Competing with the outside challanges teenagers encounter is an added challenge. I am and have always been a struggling mother with my daughter. Our relationship has always been like two bulls in a china closet, and yet there are many moments of love.  Memorable moments when we place our weapons down and give each other immunity, which although brief, is comforting to both of us.  Without warning, we are back to our disfunctional love. God I love those times when we lay our swords down and there is peace.
From my own experience with my daughter, I try to always give the best advice I can give to her.  I am aware that I am dealing with a young mind, and that the  cobweb of a teenager’s brain that is struggling to absorb the realities of being a productive member of society. Such things as being responsible, being reliable, being honest, and being committed have not yet fully kicked in during the formidable teenage years, and to stand by and witness this as a parent is almost as painful as having surgery with out being sedated. Any advice?
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I know exactly what you mean when you say you enjoy when the swords are down and there is peace! Isnt it something how swiftly the ride turns at times? I, too, and the mom of a bi-polar teen daughter. She is 17 now and wanting to move out on her own, yet it is so hard to let go knowing what she will go thru.I have no advice, but understand what you must be going thru every day of your life. Hers as well. Good luck.
I guess Mothers are a bit like animals who protect their young! Dealing with a bi-polar teenage daughter has been the biggest task of my life. I am not perfect by far and I do have personal struggles with myself everyday and I am supposed to be an example to my daughter. I have always been my daughter’s personal cleaner…I am the woman who follows behind her with my broom to be there to clean up each mess caused by her poor choices to protect and to serve her every need. I have found at times I have neglected my own welfare! I love my daughter and I often feel some little guilt because after some of her emotional highs and lows I find myself calmly staring at her and thinking WHERE IS THE NICE SWEET GRATEFUL BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER OF MINE? Then there are short moments of words I treasure… “Bye Mom I love you” … “Are you ok Mom” … or “Thank’s Mom”. I have found from my own dealings with my daughter to tell her I am the one person on this earth in your life whom would never steer her wrong! And of course she doesn’t hear the word’s of wisdom and deals with it on her own unexpierenced mind and then we have to deal with the drama of her choices! So I have backed off and set my broom aside only beause I am exhausted! I allow her to live with the choices she has made and I never take my phone with me if I am out and want to relax and enjoy myself. It’s hard!!! It tears at my heart sometimes. A mother of a teenage bi-polar daughter can be bumpy! Be sure to take those moments to relax and most of all take time for yourself so you are strong ! and dont run to put any fires out, unless it’s life or death of course. Just Breathe…..it’s going to be o.k. remember you are a Mother lion and she is only a cub.